This is, sadly, all too common, the inability to see people online who disagree with us as real, living people. We see it when we bully people we don’t agree with, or we use derogatory terms to describe someone we don’t really know anything about, or when we tell people to harm themselves. Social platforms…
This article makes some interesting points, which I’m going to oversimplify with this quote, so please go read the whole thing – “Positive thinking – “The past is the past and I just have to look forward”—only underscores the idea that there’s nothing to be done about the effects the past had on you. That’s…
This post isn’t necessarily about abuse survivors, but I think it applies. Healing from abuse is similar, there are good days and then there are not so good days. Both are OK. We bombard ourselves with a litany of questions: Why the heck am I sooo tired? What’s wrong with me? Why does this always…
This interview is a very interesting read to anyone who is interested in seeing child abuse as a public health problem and trying to find preventative solutions instead of simply reacting to abuse after the fact. This little tidbit, about public registries, in my mind, sums up exactly why the US approach has it all…
This is something we haven’t even begun to understand, because we don’t want to, but I’m not sure that’s a good idea. Let’s face it: Even a quick scan of the media suggests that when abuse occurs, most people want to make the abuse just go away… along with the abuser. It can take a…
This is an under-reported, and clearly understudied form of abuse, growing up in a house and having to be the parent, but it is something that we need to be aware of, because it obviously plays an important role later on in life. “Kiesel’s story is one of what psychologists refer to as destructive parentification—a…
