Shared Links (weekly) April 9, 2023

Shared Links (weekly) April 9, 2023

Sharing – Why Siblings Can Have Different Childhoods And Impressions Of Their Parents

Sharing – Why Siblings Can Have Different Childhoods And Impressions Of Their Parents

The article below describes how this can happen, mostly focused on several factors. One, things change. The family’s circumstances change over the years, your parents change over the years, and so an older or younger sibling might have been raised differently than we were. Also, we are different. Some kids’ personalities mesh differently with their parents compared to their siblings. That’s all pretty normal. 

I want to talk about childhood abuse, especially why it can seem like our siblings don’t understand when we tell them about our abuse. One of the things that becomes clear as you read the link is that kids might grow up in the same biological family but not necessarily in the same circumstances.

Sharing – Where Does Shame Come From?

Sharing – Where Does Shame Come From?

Those who have suffered childhood trauma often have shame that we cannot place. Sometimes because our memories are foggy and we can’t place them, maybe more often because shame became part of us as we grew up. Our very development occurred in the middle of shame, so much so that we aren’t even aware of it.

It just is. It has always been and always will be.

Except that’s not correct at all.

Sharing – What happens after you tell your story? That’s a story in itself

Sharing – What happens after you tell your story? That’s a story in itself

And if you feel strongly that you want to write a book, start a site like this, and hit social media and tell the world, make sure you are prepared for all of it. Because once it’s out, you don’t control it any longer.

Once you’re sure though, tell your story for all the people who aren’t ready yet.

Reviews Elsewhere – The Gap and the Gain by Dr. Benjamin Hardy

Reviews Elsewhere – The Gap and the Gain by Dr. Benjamin Hardy

If this gap feeling describes where you are in your healing, turn your gaze around from looking at the goal and how far it may be to how much further along you are on that path than you were 1, 3, or 5 years ago.

You might be surprised by how far you’ve come in that time. You might even take a moment to feel proud of yourself.