Sharing – Receiving a hug or engaging in self-soothing touch reduces cortisol levels following a stressful experience

Sharing – Receiving a hug or engaging in self-soothing touch reduces cortisol levels following a stressful experience

I think this is interesting. Obviously, during a pandemic and as survivors hugging someone else may or may not be all that realistic, but the fact that this study seems to indicate we can get similar results from self-soothing touch is an interesting idea.

Sharing – Other People Don’t Think You’re a Mess

Sharing – Other People Don’t Think You’re a Mess

The key is to have some compassion for yourself, similar to the compassion you might have for someone else in a vulnerable situation. When you can do that, suddenly what the other person does isn’t as important, you’ve given yourself grace, and acceptance.

As childhood abuse survivors, of course, this is tricky. Self-compassion is not generally one of our strengths. How could it be? All our lives we’ve been told that bad things happen either to bad people, or for a reason, and we’ve had something horrible happen to us, so we must be broken in some way to have had that experience. Didn’t we all think that way at one point or another? How could we not?

Sharing – Validation Is Important in Supporting Trauma Survivors

Sharing – Validation Is Important in Supporting Trauma Survivors

It’s true, there are people all around you right now who have experienced horrific traumas in their lives, and the reason you don’t know is that they don’t feel safe talking about it. They’ve lived years, even decades, with this truth, only to be met with invalidating remarks like “Why can’t you just let it go?” or “you should be over that by now”, “it wasn’t that bad”, etc.

When your trauma, the thing you are struggling to overcome, is met with that kind of response you aren’t going to rush out to talk about it, which is a shame because talking about it to people who can be validating to us is one of the best ways to actually heal from it and have it no longer dominate our daily lives.

Shared Links (weekly) October 17, 2021

Shared Links (weekly) October 17, 2021

Shared Links (weekly) Oct. 3, 2021

Shared Links (weekly) Oct. 3, 2021

Sharing – I Feel Nothing: Emotional Numbness and How to Cope

Sharing – I Feel Nothing: Emotional Numbness and How to Cope

In my experience all of that is true. The trauma of my childhood left me numb in early adulthood. The current pandemic and all of the other things going on around us every day have left me numb from time to time now. It’s the overwhelming stress that just living every day can bring right now. So, I find myself doing some of the things recommended in the article below to help in the short term, while also knowing that if that doesn’t work, I need to consider the long-term options as well.