Take care of yourself

Sharing – Beyond Survival: How Daily Self-Care Leads To A Flourishing Life

I wanted to share this post because I think the idea of self-care has gotten a little exaggerated. I always like to break it down to its simplest form – “self-care” is literally taking care of yourself. Whatever that looks like.

Simply put, self-care has two general aims. To protect us or manage stress and other negative states and to enhance our wellbeing and overall functioning (Butler, Mercer, McClain-Meeder, Horne, and Dudley, 2019). Put another way, it’s the act of treating ourselves with a caring attitude, i.e. kindness (Michael, Schujovitzky, and Karnieli-Miller, 2024).

https://unwantedlife.me/beyond-survival-how-daily-self-care-leads-to-a-flourishing-life

My favorite takeaway from this is that self-care is an everyday thing. It’s not something we plan to do; if the stress gets bad enough, it’s the actions we take every day for ourselves. Think of it like brushing your teeth. You do it every day because it keeps your teeth healthy; you don’t wait until they are dirty enough that they need a dentist’s attention to decide now is a good time to start brushing them.

Find ways to take care of yourself every day, and do them. Those are the tools that will help you when times are stressful and anxiety-inducing. You are worthy of that.

What are the ways in which you take care of yourself regularly?

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