Here’s a question for you. I want this site to become popular so that people who are dealing with childhood abuse can feel less alone, find some help, etc. At the same time the site is mostly about me. How do I promote it without coming off as self-serving and egocentric?
If you’ve been following along in the comments below, you know that the big thing I want for this site, more than anything else, is to have it become almost a community of survivors. That’s absolutely the goal I have in mind, but it’s the details that are the stumbling block. I mean really, what…
Pin I could not heal until I unlearned that my abuse was something I somehow caused. Unlearning that opened up the possibility of learning something different, namely, that I was abused because someone decided to abuse me. Did that happen overnight? Of course not! Unlearning is a process, and the more closely we identify with a belief, the more difficult it becomes to unlearn it. So many survivors learn at a very early age to keep secrets, that bad things will happen if they tell anyone.
People who’ve never had that belief drilled into their young minds wonder why victims wait decades to come forward and tell their stories. That’s why! That belief is hard to unlearn. Many of us grew up with silence being the thing that prevents the abuse from being worse. Why should we start discussing it? If you tried to tell someone as a child and got shut down, this only gets worse.Â
I got an email yesterday asking for advice on finding people to talk to about being a survivor, and within the email the person expressed a desire to share their own writings and poetry. Naturally, I couldn’t help but suggest starting a blog. Not only does starting your own give you a place to share…
Pin You should not feel sorry for me. This post isn’t about me. As I said, I have a condition that millions of people deal with every day. I’ll do the same. It’s about the reality that people around us are living with things that require efforts that we don’t understand. Just showing up for life every day requires effort and dedication from everyone you know. The amount of effort and challenges are different, and they are not distributed equally. You shouldn’t dismiss anyone’s struggles, especially if you’ve not been in those same circumstances yourself.Â
Some things have to be experienced to see all the details. When someone is willing to share the details of their challenges, listen and learn. Raise their voices instead of assuming you know the answers.Â
Experience is a hard teacher. We all can learn the lessons from those who’ve lived it.Â
Anyone who spends as much time as I do online, and who is an outspoken survivor, inevitably gets bombarded with lots of requests to share information to their readers. Like most of you, I get a lot of those, and if it’s something that I think survivors might benefit from, I’m more than happy to….
Pin I wrote about this video on my tech blog earlier this week because websites, social networks, and pretty much everything on the internet are in a constant battle for our attention. In the video, Tristan Harris talks about our intentions and how the web is designed to override that. Think about it: how many times have you…
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