Holidays

It’s holiday time here in the US again. We’ll be traveling later today and spending Thanksgiving with the in-laws. Should be nice to spend some time down there with them.

But being with family isn’t what I want to talk about today, it’s being thankful. It may not seem like, as an abuse survivor, there’s a whole lot for you to be thankful about. I’ve been there. I’ve got a ton of things to be thankful for now in my life, but I’m not far removed from the days when it was very different. The days when being alive was the most I could be thankful for, and even that I wasn’t so sure about.

Looking back now, I am thankful that I was still alive after everything. That in itself was no small miracle, given that I had treid to actually commit suicide. But being alive means that there will be a tomorrow, and that gives you another chance to enjoy a day, to make a memory, to have a happy moment. There’s always the hope that tomorrow will be better, that some small thing will spark a smile, or even a laugh, or a moment to share with our loved ones. Let this holiday weekend be filled with those moments. The moments that make life worth living, that fill our memory with joy and happiness. Seize the day to make your moments and share them with the people who are there to share them with..

Things you’re missing if you don’t visit the forums because that’s where I put them:

Brain Chemistry 101

Holiday depression

Child sex abuse survivor tells parents what they need to know

Similar Posts

  • | |

    Sugar Ray Leonard and Reacting to Survivors

    I was listening to the latest BS Report podcast on ESPN today, an interview done by Bill Simmons with Sugar Ray Leonard. I was aware that Ray openly discusses the sexual abuse he suffered as a child in his recent autobiography, but I hardly expected that to be a major portion of the interview. If…

  • I’ve been doing quite a

    I’ve been doing quite a bit of thinking about an issue that someone sent me an email about. It concerned abuse victims, and their tendency to abuse others as adults. I spent some time researching it, and found just really little information, and contradictory information at that. Are abuse survivors more or less likely to…

  • |

    Scientific Illiteracy – If It Was That Simple…

    One of my pet peeves, among many, are articles written as though fixing everything about life is as simple as getting outside more, or eating this one thing, or stating that a study shows something that really, maybe it doesn’t. For example, the studies about screen time, or social media use, which seem to be…

  • Want to Lower LGBTQ Youth Suicide Risks? Just Accept Who They Are

    Since it’s Pride Month, I’ve seen a few references on social media to the higher rates of suicide of LGBTQ youth. I’ve also seen a number of explanations for it, and things that you could do to help, but I wanted to share this quote from the Inside Mental Health podcast, where the host, Gabe Howard, was interviewing Dr. Amy Green, from the Trevor Project, because it really cuts to the chase with data, and facts.

    When we look at that, the data is striking. One of our data findings found LGBTQ youth who have at least one accepting adult are 40% less likely to report a suicide attempt. When I say risk factors, rejection is one of the biggest ones on the other side for protective factors, it’s acceptance, its affirmation, its support. It’s so crucial during the adolescence and young adult period.

    If you go listen to the whole podcast below, you’ll see that the things that increase the risks for suicide among LGBTQ youth are very much socially based. It’s not that LGBTQ youth have some sort of genetic quirk that makes them more likely to deal with mental health issues, it’s because they are so much more likely to be rejected, and unable to live their authentic lives. That one thing, is something that has an oversized impact on suicide rates for everyone, and happens to LGBTQ kids more often.

    So, here’s something you can do that will have a huge affect on the likelihood a LGBTQ kid in your life will be lost to suicide, just accept them. Just allow them to be who they are, and live their life accordingly. That’s it.

  • The Importance Of Fun

    I’ve always been a big fan of taking a break and having some fun, no matter where you are in your healing. Sometimes the best way to get past a particularly stressful point in your life is to step away from it for an evening, an do something for yourself. I was reminded of that…

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

To respond on your own website, enter the URL of your response which should contain a link to this post's permalink URL. Your response will then appear (possibly after moderation) on this page. Want to update or remove your response? Update or delete your post and re-enter your post's URL again. (Find out more about Webmentions.)