And another thing

A comment left on that last post reminded me of another important reality. Healing from childhood abuse takes time, there’s no doubt about that, but the other thing is, it’s never too late to start! There’s plenty of times I look at my life, at the age of 35, and wish I hadn’t wasted so much of my 20’s trying to avoid dealing with the abuse issues. On the other hand, it’s better that I started late than not at all. No matter how many years have gone by, let the remaining ones be full of healing and happiness.

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One Comment

  1. Thank you for you courage to cope. I am trying to heal from quite a few things myself including child abuse. It’s been tough when I feel like denial is really a powerful thing that has shaped me just as much as the abuse itself. Denial is another thing I find frightening to face, especially in the psychiatric profession. I am listening to myself and trying to heal. Depression is still an issue for me. I am still looking for the right therapist. View my blog, especially the link on child abuse. I felt this psychotherapist took a really eloquent and sensitive approach towards the real impact on survivors. He is building a monument to survivors.

    Smokey

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