I caught a mention of a TED talk relating to shame and even though the speaker, Brene Brown, wasn’t specifically talking about survivors, I think there’s a lot of information that applies to survivors.
Shame is an unspoken epidemic, the secret behind many forms of broken behavior. Brené Brown, whose earlier talk on vulnerability became a viral hit, explores what can happen when people confront their shame head-on. Her own humor, humanity and vulnerability shine through every word.
As a survivor, that certainly rings true for me. Survivors hang on to a lot of shame about what happened to us, and that shame colors every aspect of life to some degree or other. For me, healing is about reaching the point where I’m not ashamed of what happened, because it wasn’t my fault. There’s real power in not hiding the secrets any more.
You can go and check out this talk over on the TED website.