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    Reasons I Didn’t Tell Anyone I was Being Sexually Abused

    That’s why when people approach me with ideas for how to prevent childhood sexual abuse, the only two things I focus on are education and honesty. I didn’t even know I was being abused because I lacked any education, and I didn’t talk to anyone because there were no safe adults for me to talk to. 

    If you want to prevent abuse, do those things. Talk to kids about sex, abuse, rape, violence, and LGBTQ issues. Please give them the vocabulary to talk about what is happening to them, to define what is right and wrong, and a place to get their questions answered honestly, get good information on the topic, and have open conversations without judgment. 

    If you aren’t willing to provide that for kids, I guarantee you there is a predator out there who will be more than happy to fill in the spaces for the kids around you and teach them about sex. You’re not going to like what they teach them. 

  • New link

    A new entry to the blogroll, under the abuse survivor wing you’ll find Leah’s Survivor/Thriver weblog. As always, I’m open to other suggestions of blogs for the “Inpirational Blogs” wings!

  • Thankfulness

    After work today we’ll be off to celebrate the holiday with Angela’s parents, and spending the whole weekend visiting. I’m looking forward to the down time, it’s been a very hectic week! 🙂 I’m glad too, that I’ll have some time to savor the things that I am truly thankful for, the live that I…

  • Maybe I’m in the wrong industry?

    Given abuse victim’s severe dislike for anything they can’t control, and depression sufferer’s tendency to feel completely overwhelmed when things don’t work they way they should, maybe working with computers wasn’t the best choice I could have made. When things go wrong, they really tend to go wrong, and when things don’t work, trying to…

  • How Much Blame Should We Really Get for not Picking up on Grooming?

    Think about it. Right now, this very second, you are reading this post because either you found the headline intriguing and clicked, or someone shared it with you and said you should read it, and you clicked. In both cases, you were persuaded by another person to do something. If you saw it on Facebook or other social media platform, there’s a Facebook algorithm watching you and trying to give you more stuff you like, to persuade you to keep coming back to Facebook, and you’re reading it on a device that you were persuaded to purchase by some other factor in your life. 

    Not to mention the fact that parents, teachers, or someone, somewhere, persuaded you to learn to read. You were persuaded, even manipulated, to go to school, study, become the sort of person who could get a well-enough paying job to own a piece of technology and pay for an internet connection, and all of that wound up with you, right here, right now. 

    You were “groomed” to do what you are doing right now. And yet, so many want to look at children, and make them responsible for knowing which persuasion is good for them and which isn’t. 

  • Older now

    You know the old saying “I wish that I knew what I know now, when I was younger”, or some variation of it? I just heard that line in a song and thought, wow isn’t THAT true! I realize that there’s no way for that to happen but I do wish, for all of the…

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