That’s work..

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 1 minute

I’ve been reading a book about networking as part of my attempt to find a new job. Last night I was trying to work on a few of the exercises concerning professional goals, values, etc. One of the exercises was to list 5 accomplishmnets that I am proud of. Ha! Little do they know me, do they?

On the other hand, even though it took a lot of work and I really had to stretch to get to 5, I did come up with 5 things that I am proud of. Believe me, that’s 2-3 more than I’ve ever been proud of before in my life, and 5 more than some points in my life. That’s improvement, right?

The five:

1- Survivng and overcoming child abuse and depression
2- Having a happy, healthy marriage and being a good husband
3- Having taught myself enough about computers to be very good at my current job.
4- Passing my A+ technical certifications last year
5- Gaining the confidence and comfort to be adventurous, turning that into opportunities to travel, photo, and explore the world around me.

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5 Comments

  1. Mike, congratulations and best wishes. So sorry to hear that you’ve suffered child abuse and depression. Me, too. I just started to face it about 6 months ago. I’m 45 now, abuse was when I was 8-10. How did you overcome?

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  2. John,

    A lot of time, a lot of work, a lot of reorienting the way I looked at everything and everyone. It’s an ongoing process, believe me. 🙂

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  3. Wishing you all the best on the job search and good for you for doing the reflective work.

    (Why is it so hard for us (survivors) to compliment ourselves, feel good about our work and the like?! – I too have experienced this and it is frustrating.)

    Again, all the best,
    Leah

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  5. I feel as if child abuse is based on someone ignorance. The person probably has low self-esteem and has anger problems. So instead of them taking their anger out on the person that caused it they will take it out on their children. Mainly because they know that their children will not strike back. That’s how i feel and someone needs to put an end to all this. I have suffered sex abuse when I was 12-15 and now I’m only 16, but I’m getting over it.

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