Jean, a “psychologist-in-training” posted a message in the forums about finding survivors of physical child abuse by a parent and/or caregiver as part of her dissertation. If you’re interested you can read more about it in her post, and contact her.
Pin As you might imagine these sorts of activities are severely traumatizing, and Lauren’s response in the article I linked makes that clear. I also want to address the more subtle trauma here though. That trauma comes from those of you who will read this story and immediately respond “well she shouldn’t have been taking those photos”.
I want to be very clear here. That statement is 100% blaming the victim. This is the same exact thing as saying a woman shouldn’t have walked alone at night, or had a drink, or a child shouldn’t have been so friendly with strangers, etc. Lauren didn’t do anything wrong. What she and her husband do inside of their marriage is none of our business, no laws were broken, nothing untoward was going on. She was just a wife living her life and she was hacked. The person who stole these photos was the one breaking the law. The people sharing and selling those photos were breaking the law. Save your moral outrage for them and the people requesting to have these photos used to create fake rape videos because she was a rape victim.
Anyone who can read the entire story and walk away indignant more at her for having taken photos that were perfectly legal and a personal choice instead of the people who have violated her are simply violating her again.
Pin I’ve shared some articles recently about this problem, but nothing hits home like, well, home. And seeing the issue right where you live. During a recent hearing about putting a tax on the ballot for the Baton Rouge area to fund a mental health treatment facility, the reporter who was covering the hearing posted this…
Pin This is an important story. It tells the story of a young girl and how she wound up a victim of sexual abuse at the hands of her gymnastics coach. The reason this is important is that it’s become clear we have a problem with sexual abuse in sports, and her story, or some version…
YoMonkey posted a survey in the forums, hoping that some folks will take the time to help her with a study she is conducting to help high school kids understand the effects of child abuse. You can send her an email from that post with your answers, or, I suppose, you could just answer them…
Someone left a comment the other day in which they talked about anger, and the struggle to live with the anger over what had happened to them. My response was something along the lines that, for me, the anger will never completely go away, but it gets replaced. As I learn to live my own…
I’m sitting in my office crying. Thankfully the door’s shut and there’s no one standing outside knocking at the moment, because if they were, they’d have to figure out just why the hell I’m sitting in my office with tears rolling down my face and I don’t think I could even tell them. This is…
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