Leah pointed to an interesting blog that is all about Jewish survivors of sexual violence. While I’m not Jewish, I’ll be reading it and keeping an eye out for common issues that affect all survivors. 🙂
I’ll have more to say later, it’s been a crazy-busy couple of weeks but things should get a little closer to normal soon!
Pin As you might imagine these sorts of activities are severely traumatizing, and Lauren’s response in the article I linked makes that clear. I also want to address the more subtle trauma here though. That trauma comes from those of you who will read this story and immediately respond “well she shouldn’t have been taking those photos”.
I want to be very clear here. That statement is 100% blaming the victim. This is the same exact thing as saying a woman shouldn’t have walked alone at night, or had a drink, or a child shouldn’t have been so friendly with strangers, etc. Lauren didn’t do anything wrong. What she and her husband do inside of their marriage is none of our business, no laws were broken, nothing untoward was going on. She was just a wife living her life and she was hacked. The person who stole these photos was the one breaking the law. The people sharing and selling those photos were breaking the law. Save your moral outrage for them and the people requesting to have these photos used to create fake rape videos because she was a rape victim.
Anyone who can read the entire story and walk away indignant more at her for having taken photos that were perfectly legal and a personal choice instead of the people who have violated her are simply violating her again.
This is how childhood abuse plays out in adulthood for many people, male and female. The abuse becomes an ingrained part of how we see ourselves, believing that it was deserved. As adults, why would we believe we deserve anything else?
Pin You are my online community, and while your numbers might not be as large as the number of followers I had on other platforms, I’m not worried about how this platform will change and become dangerous to any of you. This platform, MY platform, is safe for survivors, for those of you with mental health struggles, and for those of you dealing with illness, oppression, hatred, and discrimination. There are no shareholders to be beholden to, no one tracking you, no ads. There’s nothing here but one guy reminding you all that you are not alone.
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I’m currently sitting in O’Hare airport, waiting to board a flight that I once thought I would never be capable of getting on. I’m flying to Dublin, Ireland tonight, a place I’ve always wanted to visit. For years growing up I’ve always faced two obstacles to this trip. Obviously, finances being one, but also a…
I ran across this article today, about a high school in Minnesota and how they have, for several years now, assigned students a senior research project on child abuse. I think this is great, and I think that the more people we can get talking, thinking, acknowledging and listening to survivors, the more tools we…
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