I saw this post over at Neil’s blog, he’s going to be interviewed about life as a male victim of sexual abuse next Weds. on the Darkness to Light radio show. I’ll be working when the show airs live, but I will be sure to give it a listen from the site shortly afterwards. Obviously, I do have some interest in the topic, and it’s not often you see the topic of sexual abuse specifically of males being addressed, so I’m glad for that, if nothing else!
Pin Am I sad that there are fewer child abuse advocacy groups on Facebook overall? Sure. But, what makes me sadder is how many legitimate advocacy groups fell massively short of their duty to tell the truth to their followers. How many continued to share these theories well after they were disproved in some bizarre effort to show how much more they cared about children, while diverting attention and resources from real victims and organizations trying to help them.
So no. I don’t feel sorry for you if your page was taken down by Facebook for violating their terms of service around spreading disinformation. You owed real survivors, and the people who followed you to learn more about true child abuse stories, more than that. You are right about one thing, child abuse and child trafficking is an incredibly important issue. Spreading lies doesn’t help that message, it provides the rest of the world an excuse to ignore it. If you truly want to advocate for children, stick to the truth, or suffer the consequences.
Just a note, something that has long bothered me, and has recently come to my attention again. Being in therapy, or suffering from depression, or being a survivor of child abuse, does not give you an excuse to be completely self-absorbed and act like an ass. That is all.. 🙂
Pin I was abused by people who made the decision to abuse me. I did nothing to cause it, and there was no lack of purpose to which I needed to be directed. I was a little kid being beaten, and eventually molested, for years. My purpose in life was to be a little kid. There was nothing fair about it, there was no sense to be made of why it happened, it was the result of another person’s actions which happened to be directed toward me because I was there. And, I was there by chance. Not by divine interference, just random chance.Â
Yes, it’s time to start thinking about what you want to submit to the April carnival. As this month’s host, I’m adding a theme for the month. In addition to the regular themes of Advocacy and Awareness, Aftermath, Healing and Therapy, In the News, Poetry and Survivor Stories, in honor of the month of April,…
I was reading Carolyn’s comment on that last post, and she used a term I’d been thinking about lately, “damaged goods.” Are we, as child abuse survivors, damaged goods? To a certain extent, we are. Being victimized like that as a child leaves long-lasting impressions and issues. On the other hand, it’s not exactly a…
I saw this comment hit the blog this evening, and have since sent an email response, but I wanted to share my thoughts with others, and perhaps get a discussion going around the topic. Here’s what Amie wrote earlier: No victim of child abuse will EVER live a happy life. Somewhere deep down inside, they…
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It is always hard for anyone, male or female to speak out about the abuse that happens to them in their lives. It takes a lot of nerve for Neil to come forward with his story and I cheer him and support him on every step of the way.
Fighting this terrible crime starts with people like Neil speaking out. The more people who do, the better chance we have to fight against sexual abuse in any human being of any age, especially children.
Stay strong and someday, we will unite,
Ernie Meyer, Author of “The Story of Rita, Risen from Hell” and http://www.rapecounsel.com.