Double Language

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 1 minute

As an example of some of the information being shared over on the Abuse Survivor and Supporter’s network, I learned about this post about the double language of pedophiles.

I can’t say I had given this much thought before tonight, but it certainly is something that more attention should be paid to. Children may be tryng to tell you what’s happening to them, but only know the words the person victimizing them has taught them. If you know of cases of this happening, go over and leave a comment on the post or join the conversation on the social network. Add to the conversation.

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