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Sept. Carnival and Another Link

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 1 minute

Lots going on this weekend in the online survivor community. If you’re not out enjoying the weather, or watching some football, there’s plenty of good stuff to read and think about.

First up, Dan has the Inner Child Edition of the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse up. There’s quite a bit of good stuff linked over there!

Also, this morning, Meggs posted a collection of answers from male survivors to this question:

If you could give just one piece of advice to the spouse/partner/friend/family member who wants to support you, what would it be?

I was one of the male survivors she approached about it, and it was good for me to stop and think about that for a moment. I get emails from spouses/girlfriends/parents quite frequently about how to support a male survivor, and while there is a lot of specific advice I try to give based on the information in their emails, it’s good to think about what the big, important, areas are. It also helped to know I wouldn’t be the only one answering, so I challenged myself to come up with something original too. I like the combination of answers Meggs has.

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