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Time Doesn’t Heal All Wounds

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 1 minute

Dr. Robert K. Ross giving a Tedx Talk at Ironwood State Prison. In it he talks about the long lasting effects, physical and emotional, of repeated childhood trauma. He also talks about courage and resiliency that can not only overcome the trauma, but better ourselves through it.

I have to admit, some survivors are some of the most courageous and resilient people I know. Others are the most self-destructive people I know, and some of those turn into the former category. This helps explain what is really going on.

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17 Comments

  1. Awesome! At the recent Battered Mothers Custody Conference, they were talking about using the study he references in custody hearings when domestic violence is in the home. By doing this, they hope to prevent kids from being placed in unsupervised visitation with abusive parents. I talk about this in a post I made on my website (www.carolineabbott.com) on May 21, 2014 if you are interested. Thanks for your post!

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