Just Stop – The Universe did not Cause My Abuse For My Greater Good

Just Stop – The Universe did not Cause My Abuse For My Greater Good

I was abused by people who made the decision to abuse me. I did nothing to cause it, and there was no lack of purpose to which I needed to be directed. I was a little kid being beaten, and eventually molested, for years. My purpose in life was to be a little kid. There was nothing fair about it, there was no sense to be made of why it happened, it was the result of another person’s actions which happened to be directed toward me because I was there. And, I was there by chance. Not by divine interference, just random chance. 

Why Public Speaking Skills Could Help Us with Tough Conversations
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Why Public Speaking Skills Could Help Us with Tough Conversations

Last night, during the #Sexabusechat on Twitter the topic was on disclosing, the fear, the struggle, and the results. Obviously, that’s a huge subject with a ton of nuance around it, and sure enough, it inspired a lot of good conversation. Toward the end of it, however, a thought occurred to me in response to…

What If I Told You Most Abuse Survivors Are Not Who We Think They Are?

What If I Told You Most Abuse Survivors Are Not Who We Think They Are?

What if a study found that 65% of sexual abuse survivors are “mentally healthy” as adults? Would you believe that? Granted, it might be difficult to swallow that as fact. I’m fairly skeptical of exactly how this study was conducted myself, but I also have to go back to my understanding of statistics and math…

To Create Change, You Have to Move
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To Create Change, You Have to Move

Over the weekend, we spent some time in New Orleans, and stopped by the sculpture garden in City Park. One particular installation grabbed my attention as a metaphor for childhood abuse and trauma. Often, when speaking to survivors, I hear them describe being “stuck”. I understand this, as it is common for many of us…