Quick Thought #24 – How to make it not seem overwhelming
The challenge is to create a society where more people have access to experts and are not left to fend for themselves.
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Quick Thought #23 – Change is Needed, but Callousness is Not
As I have said many times, solving the mental health issues that plague the US will involve a lot of hard work, difficult conversations, and measured steps to create positive impacts for all of us. Adults need to be adults and have mature discussions about how to help as many suffering people as possible.
What we’re seeing from our government now is anything but adults being mature.
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Quick Thought #22 – Kate Middleton and Filling in the Blanks
Most of the time, we don’t know what people are dealing with, but even when we do know, they may react to trauma and stress in ways that don’t make sense to us.
That’s life. That’s being human; being mature means accepting and being comfortable with it – not trying to fill in all the blanks yourself.
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Quick Thought #21 – Stark Differences in How I Talk To Myself
I failed to notice that the restaurant only offered pickup orders until we sat around, wondering why I hadn’t gotten any notification about our food being on the way. It had been sitting there, getting cold, waiting for us to pick it up for at least 20-25 minutes. We quickly hopped in the car to get it; all the while, I apologized over and over to my wife, berated myself internally for not noticing and screwing up our dinner, etc.
When we got there, I ran inside only to discover that the restaurant only had one meal, not two. Part of the order had gotten cut off, and no one caught it until I got there and asked about the second meal. The manager made things right very quickly, apologizing over and over.
My response?
“No worries, it’s all good. We’ve got our food, and that’s all that matters.”
And then I got back in the car, telling myself that this whole mess could have been avoided if I had handled ordering correctly in the first place.
What is wrong with me?
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Quick Thought #20 – As a Male Sexual Assault Survivor, I’m Appalled by what the US is Doing to Women
I cannot imagine the kind of harm we are doing to female survivors when we tell them they have to carry their pregnancy to term. That they remain in a condition where they have no choice. States, including my own, that have or are moving toward enacting complete bans on abortion with no exception for rape and incest victims are ripping the choice of how to move forward away, victimizing these survivors a second time. Forcing their own desires on the bodies of women.
If your religion is willing to force the victim of a violent crime to continue to be violated in this way, you need a better religion. You need a better god, and you absolutely need a better heart. You are not righteous, you are an abuser.
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Quick Thought #19 – Loneliness and Toxic Positivity
I don’t think that’s it. Not completely anyway. I think the real damage social media has done is to make toxic positivity popular. For every person celebrating their “good vibes only” lifestyle, there are at least 2-3 people who have lost a friend because they’ve been cut out by someone unwilling to be with them in their pain.
After all, if the goal is to eliminate all the negative people in your life, where do people go when they are in pain, grieving, or simply need support?
Nothing makes you lonelier than having no one to turn to during those times, and, increasingly, the message we are getting is to aspire to be that uncaring towards people in need.
