Leah was kind enough this weekend to point out both a new survivor blog called A Place to be Heard, and a new survivor blog aggregator at blogdigger.
Looks like I’ve got some more reading to look forward to as I follow along with these new sites!
I’ve been thinking quite a bit about this subject of late. I won’t get into any of the details of why, but suffice it to say, I’ve had a number of conversations and seen stories of people who find themselves in situations, as adults, that from the outside seem easily changeable, yet they don’t do…
Lori’s Song is a brand new site, that just went live today. It is also a charity designed to provide a supportive area for abuse survivors. From their mission statement: We have many goals for Lori’s Song. Most prominent in our vision is a positive focus on healing and thriving. Our comprehensive website provides a…
As many of you know, back in September I shut down the Survivors Network as it existed, due to some issues with the level of privacy and anonymity of the Buddypress infrastructure. As I mentioned then the Facebook page has been getting quite popular, and there had been some interaction going on there as well,…
I spotted a post by Rainbow Gryphon’s blog the other day, mostly due to the fact that she linked to this blog as an example of how men can suffer emotional abuse. As I read her post, I realized that for all the years I’ve been writing here, I haven’t really gotten into the details…
I received an email today asking about resources, or groups for the spouses of abuse survivors. I agree that dealing with a past that includes child abuse can be very difficult, not just on the survivor, but also on the significant others of survivors, as well as many other close friends and family. It certainly…
Pin The context for this quote is a handful of stories where someone felt ashamed of an event or something that they’d allowed people to believe about them that wasn’t true. Marisa goes on to talk about how when we have something we won’t discuss, it creates a separation from other people, and that separation can take away from humanness. Our interactions with other people are blocked off. We know we aren’t sharing our whole selves with the people we should be. That block can protect us from potential pain, but it also prevents us from having all the benefits of having close relationships with other humans.
Doesn’t that sound exactly like growing up keeping our abuse secret?
We grow up with shame around something that was never our fault. That shame prevents us from fully connecting with other human beings. That lack of connection harms our mental health as adults. We struggle to heal without one of the most powerful tools in our arsenal as human beings, other people. We keep our secrets and hide our shame, meaning we will never know the healing power of being accepted and loved by those who know our whole selves.
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Menina,
Unfortunately, I know about as much as you do. Hopefully, he’ll resurface eventually.
Mike, I was wondering if you knew what happened to DanDare?
His blog was up until last week when he said something abou taking a break and now the link doesn’t work and I get an error message from 20six.co.uk.
please let me know if you know anything. thanks
i see. thankyou!
I found out where DanDare has moved to, it’s http://www.20six.co.uk/Benders2 , I think he needed a fresh start.