A Good Metaphor

I saw this story quoted on the Jewish Survivors of Sexual Abuse blog and I thought it was interesting:

Sometimes we just need to be reminded!
In the room filled with more then 200 people, a well-known speaker started off a seminar by holding up a $20.00 bill, asking, “Who would like this $20 bill?”
Hands started going up.
The speaker said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this. He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill.
He then asked, “Who still wants it?”
Still the hands were up in the air.
Well, he replied, “What if I do this?”
And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty and asked, “Now, who still wants it?” Still the hands went into the air.
The speaker stated: My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way.
We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.
Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who LOVE you.

The reason I find this interesting is because it illustrates not only the value we all still have, but it also illustrates something else. The $20 bill is still worth $20, but once the speaker got done with it, it was different than when it started. Abuse does affect us, it does change us. It leaves scars, or dirt and creases to stay with the metaphor, but even with those effects, the value of the bill stays the same. It just takes some more effort to smooth out the wrinkles.

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5 Comments

  1. Mike, this is a great article as are the others that I have read that you have written about Child Sexual Abuse. I just found your blog so have more reading to do.

    Self-worth and loving myself are the two most difficult things that I have had to learn to do as a Incest Survivor and adult on a spiritual journey. Just last week, I found a new area that I still was feeling low self-worth in. I wasn’t even aware that low self-worth was the core issue for this particular issue with my husband.

    I look forward to reading more of your articles.

  2. Hi there, Sorry just wondering if you could just write a paragraph allowing me to use this metaphor as part of my uni assignment promotional video for the bivona advocacy center, a center used to assist childret hat ave dealth with abuse.

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