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Sharing – The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Our Worth and How I’ve Let Them Go
Orly’s first step to overcoming this was actually talking to someone about it. I cannot emphasize this enough. The shame we carry from childhood is all-consuming to us. It’s the secret we expend massive amounts of energy trying to hide and obsessing over. The things we feel shame about are the things that impact our day-to-day lives in adulthood.
And, for the most part, the shame we feel isn’t true. It’s not based in reality. Orly isn’t “not smart” any more than I am, and I do not deserve punishment any more than you. These are simply the stories we took away from our childhood.
This is also why that first reaction is so important. When we finally work up the courage to share our secrets, our shames, it’s painful to have them mocked or disbelieved.
Sharing – The Dangers of Toxic Positivity
And on and on. No matter the struggle, there will always be someone there to tell you what you’re doing wrong to explain why you aren’t getting better.
What if we simply understand that life is hard? Anxiety and depression are hard. Living in poverty is hard. Living with bipolar or chronic illnesses is hard. Going outside isn’t always going to fix that. Being positive isn’t going to fix it; some days will just be hard and miserable.
Link – Depression Affects Male and Female Brains Differently
This is not surprising – “New findings suggest that adolescent girls and boys might experience depression differently and that sex-specific treatments could be beneficial for adolescents.” Depression is a very complicated thing. It rarely displays the same way for everyone, and things that help one person may have no affect at all on another. We…
Link – Past Experience Shapes What We See More Than What We Are Looking At Now
I do believe the findings also support what we see with abuse survivors, trying to see current situations through the lens of what we learned earlier. “A key question in neurology is about how the brain perceives, for instance, that a tiger is nearby based on a glimpse of orange amid the jungle leaves. If…
