Link – How Shame Contaminates Our Lives — and a Path Toward Healing

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“A deeply held shame is often the water we swim in. It’s an elusive, privately-held feeling that we don’t like to acknowledge — a nagging sense that something is amiss, that we’re basically flawed, defective, unworthy, and less valuable than others. The philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre expressed the physiological effect of shame as “an immediate shudder which runs through me from head to foot without any discursive preparation.” Such shame damages self-worth and can go hand in hand with depression.”

For survivors, this shame is all too familiar, and yet it’s not us who should feel shame. We are not the ones who have harmed someone else, or done anything wrong. Yet, we are the ones who have to work through our own shameful feelings, until we can recognize that we have nothing to be ashamed about.

The good news, is that it can be overcome.

How are you working through shame?

How Shame Contaminates Our Lives — and a Path Toward Healing

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