“On the last day, the state-appointed therapist said to me, “You’re a survivor. You didn’t fail; an adult failed you.” “
Being a child abuse survivor isn’t something we should be ashamed of, being strong enough to survive what happened is a sign of strength, not weakness.
BuzzFeed recently interviewed four suicide attempt survivors in a moving video. Each spoke about the challenges they faced that led them to attempt to take their own lives, and then about the ways they’ve learned to cope since then. “It gets better,” one of the interviewees, whose name isn’t shared, says in the video below….
Just because I’m depressed doesn’t mean I’m suddenly not an adult. In layman’s terms, I want to make it clear: Depression does not equal regression to childhood. I say this because, almost without exception, people will talk to me like I’m a 4-year-old once they discover I’m suffering from depression. I wish this illness was…
Instead of trying to fix our friends and loved ones struggling with anxiety and depression because of what they believe about themselves, maybe we should understand that by staying in their lives, we are already providing the argument against those beliefs through our actions.
It sounds odd to me. But I realize that may be because I grew up and live in a society that doesn’t place enough value on friendship. If I want to value my friends more, why wouldn’t I do whatever I could to stay connected to my closest friends? Therapy could be a viable alternative to ending close friendships and losing connections that make a difference in our lives.
So, why not friendship therapy?
ake describes the risk of these kids growing up to be people pleasers. I’d go one further. Not only did I grow up as a people pleaser, but I also had zero sense of self. Without someone to react to and to become the person they wanted me to be, I was no one. I tell people this often but I spent more time in therapy figuring out who I am than I spent trying to process childhood trauma and that was a direct result of growing up as this chameleon kid. My entire personality was based on fitting what was needed by other people, starting with my alcoholic father and the person who sexually abused me, right through to friends and my first wife. I was what I thought they wanted me to be. When my therapist started asking about what I wanted to be, I was blank. There was nothing there.
If you’re subscribed to the mailing list, you knew about this over the weekend, but for the rest of you, we have an announcement! Recently, I’ve come to the realization that Ken and I have had less and less time available for reading and reviewing books, or watching movies and documentaries and writing reviews for…
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