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Link – How to Metabolize a Compliment

As survivors, I know many of us struggle with taking compliments, and they can even be very disturbing, because our default thought might be “what does this person want from me?” So I thought this paragraph really applied to many of us.

“When someone thanks you for helping them, or expresses gratitude for your kind words or actions, or praises you for some accomplishment or quality of your being, do you let yourself be affected by their thoughtful words? Or do their compliments fall flat, perhaps because you’ve learned to deflect good things that come your way?”

On the other hand, giving and receiving compliments is an important part of our inter-relationship skills that are necessary to being an adult. If you struggle with being complimented, do yourself a favor and go read the article.

https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2017/05/13/how-to-metabolize-a-compliment/

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