Sharing – Why the Small Stuff Matters
I see this often in the workplace, where the constant refrain of “next steps” and the overwhelming need to stay on task can create huge problems for people, but we do it outside of work too, whether you want to talk about your side hustle, your hobby, or even something like social media. We spend too much time focused on our to-do list, forgetting why we are doing those things in the first place.
“Too many of us live in a constant state of anxiety, worrying about what’s next, what we have to do, and what we’re behind on. It can lead us to feel a bit like the world is going to end if we don’t stay on task or lose focus. Although we know it won’t, the feeling that there’s always something to attend to as opposed to things that can be enjoyed, even if it is a must-do rather can be hard to shake. This can have physical repercussions as well. High blood pressure, heart attack, and stroke have all been associated with being constantly under stress. It doesn’t matter that the stress may be self-imposed. “
Lately, I’ve been a victim of this myself. I’ve been feeling way more anxiety than usual, taking very little pleasure out of little things in life that I used to enjoy, and generally feeling overwhelmed. I don’t sleep more than 5 hours a night, I fidget all the time, and my focus is completely shot.
Why? Well many reasons, but one big one is the constant need to be getting the next thing on my list done.
It’s all well and good to be productive, but if you don’t have anything you do just because you enjoy it? That’s a recipe for mental health disaster in my book. I’ve lived it.
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How does a person ever get over her mother hating her, beating her, telling her she can’t stand the sight of her and wished she were never born year after year. Pushing her sweet little girl’s touch away, saying get off me, don’t touch me? Leaving the room when that girl entered it? Not acknowledging any ever a hello Mum, I’m home from school? And not letting that sweet girl have a key to get in the house when no one was home so she had to go to the neighbors in the freezing Ontario weather. And years and years of telling that sweet amazing girl she’s bad when she did everything right?. How does such a person ever heal from that kind of abuse? I don’t think I can or ever will.
Shell, that is a good question, and there is no easy answer for it. Obviously, it is affecting you on a very deep level, which is expected. What I do know is that people do heal from such trauma, and that it is possible, but I would highly suggest talking to a therapist if that is an option. It’s going to take time, work, and help to get there.
For those of us who did not receive love as a child, we must learn to love our inner child. A great way to do this is to close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and picture yourself as a child. Tell that beautiful being they are strong, they are loved, they are supported, and thank them for being there with you. Thank that child for all the blessings they have added to your world. Then imagine hugging that child, and sending love to them. Spend time each day building yourself up and finding things about yourself and your life you’re deeply thankful for. Healing is absolutely a journey, and one you more than deserve to make! Healing is more than possible–healing IS! and healing is now!! Our bodies are healing all the time, and were designed to keep us returning to wholeness. This includes our brain and our heart 🙂 Tell yourself that you are whole, you are magnificent, and you are loved!! It’s all true!! 😀 😀 Sending you big, big hugs!! Also I would suggest reading Dr. Deepak Chopra’s “Reinventing the body, ressurecting the soul.” It literally changed my life!! 🙂