Can we definitively say what happened to Rob Whalen shows a lack of caring in major league baseball about mental health, or a failure of the Mariners? No. I’m not ready to say that.There’s too much we don’t know from this story. What I will say, however, is that his description of what happened in…
So many survivors want the answer to that first question. They want to know when this will be over and done with, but that’s not realistic. It would be like me asking when will I be “healed” from diabetes. I won’t be. My disease is something that is part of me that I have to manage. I take medicine, I watch what I eat, I don’t drink, etc. That’s not going to end. I fully understand that there is no future version of me where I don’t have to do any of those things.Â
Similarly, there is no future version of me that isn’t a survivor of child abuse. It happened. There is no cure I can buy that will create a version of me where I didn’t have that experience and be shaped by it. That’s not to say that I cannot have a great life, but I will always have a life impacted by those events.Â
Margie McKinnon, the founder of Lamplighters, and author of Repair your Life sent me an email today about getting the site added to the resource section of this site. As it turns out, I’m thinking seriously about “retiring” that page, and using this blog as the ultimate resource and recommended reading section instead, so rather…
They should know, right? “The Crisis Text Line analyzed 75 million texts to pinpoint the best way to ask if someone’s suicidal” First off, asking is not going to make someone who isn’t suddenly feel like maybe they want to be. That being said, there are better ways than others to be supportive and express…
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– Can we also talk about how offensive these connections are to male survivors?
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