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Sharing – 71% of UK men have experienced some form of sexual victimization by a woman

This statistic was shocking to me.

A UK study found 71% of men experienced sexual victimization by women, which was associated with increased mental health symptoms. The research, emphasizing overlooked male victimization and challenging societal myths, was published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.

Let’s look at the details:

The most frequent forms of sexual victimization were fondling or grabbing…

Sexual victimization encompasses a range of non-consensual sexual activities inflicted upon an individual. These include rape, sexual assault, and other forms of sexual violence. It can occur in various contexts, from intimate relationships to attacks by strangers, and impacts victims regardless of their age, gender, or background.

In the context of women victims, these definitions will seem familiar to many of us. For someone like me, who was sexually abused as a child, I’ve become intimately aware of these definitions. But, I was abused by a male. Many of the male survivors I know were abused by a male. A female abused some of the men I know, but if you had asked me to guess what percentage of males in the general population have been sexually victimized by women, I would not have come close to guessing 71%.

But then I got to thinking. I’ve talked about being a sexual abuse survivor and how it was a male who abused me. What I haven’t talked about and haven’t considered for myself because the incidents are overshadowed by the years of sexual abuse are the occasions when I was sexually victimized without my consent by women.

  • In high school when a group of girls passed me in the hallway, and one of them grabbed my ass as the group laughed.
  • In my twenties, when I was watching a band play at a bar, an older woman backed into me and started rubbing herself against me.
  • On a crowded London train, I had to position my suitcase to create space between myself and another woman, taking advantage of the crowded space to get a feel.

Given my history, I think 71% might even be low.

We have a problem in our society that spreads across all genders and races. We can’t keep our hands to ourselves. We see a reckoning of sorts with women coming forward to talk about incidences of being groped, inappropriately propositioned, and stalked. We haven’t come close to solving that or making a difference in the day-to-day lives of most women, though. We’re doing even less for men who are being groped and assaulted.

As my wife said to me when I quoted the article below to her, “Stop touching anyone without consent!”

Are you shocked to see this percentage of guys saying women have victimized them at some point in their lives?

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