Shared Links (weekly) June 1, 2025
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“When I think back to those difficult years when my daughter struggled, what sticks out most in my mind is the way that people looked at me. Unlike many of the survey respondents that reported people turned away, or pitied, or even blamed them, I remember people did look at me—with tears in their eyes….
I think Randy probably speaks for quite a few folks dealing with mental health issues. Just don’t expect us to act like the holidays are easy. Because they aren’t. And I suspect that there are 83 million other people who agree. Here’s what I’d really like to see. Just let people do whatever they want,…
If you choose to forgive, know that it is your choice, including what forgiveness means to you. I’ve talked to many survivors who have made that choice, and how they define forgiveness isn’t always the same Know, however, that it absolutely does not mean you have to now be silent and never bring it up again, and know that people who desire your silence, are not your allies.
I will agree with Roseanna about that, it’s not about forgiveness, it’s about healing.
I’ve been lucky enough to see a couple of men talk about eating disorders, and body image, but I’ll be the first to admit, if you asked me, based on what I see and hear, if these were mostly women’s issues, I’d probably say yes. But that’s wrong. These are very much men’s issues and trans issues as well. We make jokes about dad bods and assume it’s no big deal because it’s men, and they don’t have the same problems, and hang ups, but we do. There are far more people in the world struggling with their body, and disordered eating, who aren’t included in the conversation because we assume it’s a young women’s issue.