“Shame caused by sexual abuse does not pass that easily. Upon that original shame we build years of additional shame, locking it into that closet in our minds, until the burden becomes unbearable. Trying to live a healthy life while you are buried in shame is impossible. That shame is the infection that needs to be lanced. When someone belittles us in public or rebuffs a kindness in front of co-workers, shame crawls like a physical discomfort over our body. “
Shame has to be overcome in order to overcome sexual abuse, and it has to be understood before it can be overcome. Survivors have nothing to feel shame over, the abuse was not their act, but it generally has been embedded deep within us.