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Sharing – When the world stops
ByMikeM April 24, 2023April 24, 2023 Reading Time: 2 minutes

We all need people who will stop and be with us. I’ve been lucky enough to have that, and I’ve had the privilege to be there for others during difficult times. I have also probably missed many an opportunity to stop and be with someone because of the hectic pace of life, and I’m not proud of that.

The question is, what do we do as a society to allow people’s worlds to stop? How do we reach a point where it’s acceptable and the expectation that we will stop when necessary?

We’ve seen the alternative. We’re living in it. A world where we rarely stop and listen to ourselves, let alone each other. Where people are hurting all around us yet afraid to talk about it. Afraid of what happens if we stop while the world moves on.

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Sharing – 5 New Books on the Science of Making and Keeping Friends
ByMikeM April 19, 2023April 19, 2023 Reading Time: 1 minute

Last week, I wrote about how important friendship is to our well-being and how terrible most of us are about making and keeping friends. Given that, I thought I would also share this list of recommended books. If you have other recommendations, feel free to leave them in the comments!

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Sharing – Depression: The Kindness Cure
ByMikeM April 17, 2023April 16, 2023 Reading Time: 1 minute

Let’s agree that politics, social media, racism, poverty, environmental disasters, and even a pandemic have caused some level of mental health harm to society, but let’s also consider that the underlying reason is that we have simply stopped being as kind as we used to be.

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Sharing – Why Do We Downplay Our Accomplishments?
ByMikeM April 13, 2023April 13, 2023 Reading Time: 2 minutes

We all have different reasons for downplaying our accomplishments. Many people don’t take the time to recognize their wins, whether due to imposter syndrome, a well-intentioned but overly focused attempt at humility, a lack of self-worth, or perfectionism.

This is a problem. When we can’t see our accomplishments, the only thing left is seeing our failures. We get a warped sense of ourselves when we only see our failures. We carry that warped sense of ourselves into the world and interact with others based on a mindset that sees only failure. That impacts our relationships and work, becoming just another failure point.

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Sharing – Opinion: Humans need to belong. What happens when we don’t?
ByMikeM April 10, 2023April 9, 2023 Reading Time: 1 minute

What if we took an honest look at the most important people in our lives and dedicated ourselves to making them feel like the matter? What would that require of us? Can we honestly say it is too much to ask?

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Sharing – Why Siblings Can Have Different Childhoods And Impressions Of Their Parents
ByMikeM April 6, 2023April 6, 2023 Reading Time: 3 minutes

The article below describes how this can happen, mostly focused on several factors. One, things change. The family’s circumstances change over the years, your parents change over the years, and so an older or younger sibling might have been raised differently than we were. Also, we are different. Some kids’ personalities mesh differently with their parents compared to their siblings. That’s all pretty normal.

I want to talk about childhood abuse, especially why it can seem like our siblings don’t understand when we tell them about our abuse. One of the things that becomes clear as you read the link is that kids might grow up in the same biological family but not necessarily in the same circumstances.

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