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Sharing – Trauma Stands Between Us and Healthy Communication
Our trauma taught us how to react during childhood in ways that are, in fact, not at all appropriate to the reality of adult life. Things that remind us of our abuse can set off a panic in us, causing us to do, and say, things that are not appropriate to the current situation, and people on the receiving end of that communication can have a difficult time understanding what has happened. Interactions between survivors can be rife with underlying messages and reactions that have nothing to do with the current situation because we are all bringing our own trauma into the conversation.
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Sharing – 5 Things to Know About Toxic Shame
Heck, for me, these words were pretty close to exact quotes from the person who abused me. I wanted this because I’m bad, if anyone found out about it, or the way my body reacted, they would know who I really am and reject me. It’s part and parcel of being abused, believing this.
Of course, none of it is true, but when this is what your own mind tells you every single day for years and years? It’s not going away that easy, so maybe spend some time reading links like the one below about how to combat toxic shame.
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Sharing – Why a child might not disclose abuse (and how to word a question in a way that may promote disclosure)
At least we can consider the possibility that we are actually doing the thing the abuser claimed would happen if the child ever told, a big, scary deal that kids would do anything to avoid, including remain silent about abuse.
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Shared Links (weekly) July 11, 2021
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‘We Can Talk About This’: Kids Benefit When Parents Open Up About Mental Health Struggles
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COVID-19 Did Not Affect Mental Health the Way You Think
– Turns out there’s a lot of resiliency out there too, but it looks different for everyone.
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How one woman’s experience with childhood sexual abuse inspired her to help others heal
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Suicide is the single biggest killer of men under 45
– in the UK
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“Never Look on the Dark Side”: The Science of Positivity from Early Eugenics to Today
