Don’t Get Distracted – Big Problems Require Big Solutions, not Simple Ones
To believe we can solve the teen mental health crisis by forcing kids off social media and doing nothing about all these other things is foolish.
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Do You Deal with Alexithymia
Frankly, this does sound like a common struggle for childhood abuse survivors. It also sounds a lot like some of the symptoms of being neurodivergent. So, I guess the question is, does a history of childhood maltreatment equal an increase in the likelihood of being neurodivergent? Or does this personality trait simply have a lot in common with other types of neurodivergent traits yet is caused by surviving early trauma?
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Sharing – Pay attention to the chameleon kids
ake describes the risk of these kids growing up to be people pleasers. I’d go one further. Not only did I grow up as a people pleaser, but I also had zero sense of self. Without someone to react to and to become the person they wanted me to be, I was no one. I tell people this often but I spent more time in therapy figuring out who I am than I spent trying to process childhood trauma and that was a direct result of growing up as this chameleon kid. My entire personality was based on fitting what was needed by other people, starting with my alcoholic father and the person who sexually abused me, right through to friends and my first wife. I was what I thought they wanted me to be. When my therapist started asking about what I wanted to be, I was blank. There was nothing there.
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Sharing – Why Complex Trauma Survivors Can’t Just ‘Get Over It’
You don’t decide to get over that. It’s not impossible to heal from it but it’s going to require quite a bit more than just deciding to get over it. So maybe you’d do a lot more good supporting people through that process instead of demanding they get over it so you can feel more comfortable.
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Sharing – Boundaries: Your Secret Weapon For A Stronger, Happier, And Healthier Mind
I talk about boundaries often. I know a few other folks in the survivor community who also talk about them often. It’s not a coincidence. Learning about healthy boundaries and how to keep them is a vital part of healing.
