Workers depression

This is an interesting article for me. It states that just 2% of workers feel like their manager would be able to help them if they suffered from mental illness such as depression. Here’s the thing, I had two very different experiences when I first was diagnosed with sever depression. My first boss, once I came back from a leave of absence, sat me down in her office, told me that she was there to talk or do whatever she needed to do to help me get well, including rearranging my schedule to allow for therapist appointments, but that I would have to come to her. In order to maintain my privacy, she was never going to say another word about it. I could explain my schedule to coworkers any way I wanted to, and she would treat me exactly the same in front of them as she did before. That was wonderful! It was exactly what I needed, to be given room to work on my own survival, but to generally be treated equally to everyone else in the workplace.

After I transferred to another department, my new supervisor fancied himself a psychology “expert” and proceeded to tell me that he’d seen my personnel records and that he would be “keeping an eye” on me, for my own good, and that he would have me in to talk about what was going on if he felt I needed it. He consistently treated me differently than the other people under his employ and I was gone 3-4 months later. I hated working there, I hated him and I never once felt comfortable working for him after that. Since then, most people I’ve worked for I’m fairly certain would have no clue what to do if confronted with the situation.

I can see now, years later, that the first supervisor was very much in the minority, and I miss working for her. 🙂

That’s why, when it comes to dealing with other survivors or victims of depression on this site, I try and treat them all the same as I would non-survivors, and I basically take the same approach that that first supervisor did. I’m always here to read an email or listen, but I don’t, generally, make it my business to track after people who write me, or pronounce my opinions without being asked first. I wouldn’t do that to just anyone so why should I treat survivors differently if they never asked me to?

Similar Posts

  • Accepting Love

    Annaleigh is hosting this month’s Carnival Against Child Abuse, and since it is the month of Valentine’s Day, she added the topic of Love to the Carnival lineup. One of the things that takes a while to learn, and yet in retrospect seems so silly, is how often survivors, in their struggles with self-esteem, spend…

  • I don’t get it

    You know what I don’t get? I don’t get people who are constantly unhappy with their lives, and never do anything to make a change. I mean, really, if your life is so horrible and frustrating, do something else. Happiness doesn’t just happen, it requires action on our part. If you’re unhappy and constantly complaining…

  • Nice site

    I was reminded this evening about a site that an online friend of mine had put up to help tell his story and support other abuse survivors. I hadn’t been there in a while and it was nice to see the forum and everything else still going strong. You can take a look at it…

  • Hand Holding

    Recently, in conversation with my massage therapist, she mentioned to me that any time she is working on me and feels like I’m stressed, thinking about work, or just not allowing myself to relax, she knows that simply rubbing my palm will immediately help me relax my body and she can get back to work….

  • | |

    You Are Not Good At Predictions

    One of the common statements I hear from survivors who are losing hope is that “things are never going to change”. They assume that because they are struggling, and have been struggling, that they always will. Well if you feel that way, you might be reassured to know that even the general population is pretty…

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

To respond on your own website, enter the URL of your response which should contain a link to this post's permalink URL. Your response will then appear (possibly after moderation) on this page. Want to update or remove your response? Update or delete your post and re-enter your post's URL again. (Find out more about Webmentions.)