I saw this post over at Jewish Survivors of Sexual Violence Speak Out about the lasting effects of sexual abuse on boys as they grow into adulthood. It’s stuff we don’t hear often when we hear about boys being abused, but it’s information that needs to be out there. Men who are living with a history of sexual abuse need to know what they’re up against and that they are not alone.
Usually, as part of my year end ritual of looking back on the previous year, I post a slideshow of my favorite photos that I took during the past year. This year, since I started a blog dedicated to just photography, you can find that slideshow over there if you’re interested! The end of the…
Pin Something else interests me about grief though and that is the grief that child abuse survivors have because it’s complicated. We aren’t grieving a person we’ve lost, we’re grieving something we never had. A safe, happy childhood or a loving parental relationship that didn’t exist. The lack of any kind of family bonds as an adult, or the inability to trust anyone. Those are things we can, and should, grieve. Often we aren’t given the chance to do that. Other people expect us to “put it behind us” because it was a long time ago. We may even convince ourselves that the best option is to suck it up and forget it, no reason to think about any of that. But, I think there’s a reason to grieve the things we didn’t have as children. They are very real losses. They have very real impacts on our brains and our emotional well-being. We can’t change it now, but we can allow ourselves the freedom to feel grief over it. It’s part of the process.Â
From a highly recommended article on Slate, How what happened in State College forced me to confront my own abuse. Several of my friends, for example, were shocked when Rick Reilly reported that, according to a 1998 study on child sexual abuse by Boston University Medical School, one in six boys in America will be…
Bad dream I had a dream last night that I found out my nephew was being molested and I had to tell his parents. What a horrible dream. I was so relieved when I woke up and realized it was just a dream, but at the same time, I feel oddly “spooked” this morning. Ugh!
Over on my tech blog, I’ve been writing a few posts about the challenges of getting your posts actually viewed by people who have “liked” your Facebook page, and now some more thoughts about adding a page you want to follow more closely to an interest list. That got me thinking about creating, and sharing,…
When did it become unhealthy to not yell and scream when you’re angry? What I mean is, I am not someone who yells and screams when I’m angry, but that doesn’t mean I’m repressing my anger. It’s just not how I choose to express my anger. I’m not burying it and letting it fester, I’m…
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I was looking at all the different survivor categories you have listed,and I find that I fit under most if not all.I plan to place a link to you from mine,if that is alright with you,please email,available from profile.Thank you.