I saw this post over at Jewish Survivors of Sexual Violence Speak Out about the lasting effects of sexual abuse on boys as they grow into adulthood. It’s stuff we don’t hear often when we hear about boys being abused, but it’s information that needs to be out there. Men who are living with a history of sexual abuse need to know what they’re up against and that they are not alone.
Since the wife’s job has her out of town this weekend, I’m taking advantage of the down time to do some much needed updating of this site. Update one was cleaning out some of the dead links in the blogroll. It’s quite a bit shorter now. Given that, there’s some room for new links. I’ll…
Pin I came across this post on the Being Beautifully Bipolar blog this weekend and I thought it really served as a reminder for many folks who are currently taking medication, or in therapy, for a mental health issue. In the post, Elaina talks about getting angry at her situation, and deciding to simply stop taking…
Pin I’ve mentioned this in the past, but in the last week, I’ve had another stark reminder that not everyone is in a place where they can simply share with their social networks the fact that they are a survivor of childhood abuse, or are dealing with mental health issues. If you’ll allow me to quote…
Pin As you might imagine these sorts of activities are severely traumatizing, and Lauren’s response in the article I linked makes that clear. I also want to address the more subtle trauma here though. That trauma comes from those of you who will read this story and immediately respond “well she shouldn’t have been taking those photos”.
I want to be very clear here. That statement is 100% blaming the victim. This is the same exact thing as saying a woman shouldn’t have walked alone at night, or had a drink, or a child shouldn’t have been so friendly with strangers, etc. Lauren didn’t do anything wrong. What she and her husband do inside of their marriage is none of our business, no laws were broken, nothing untoward was going on. She was just a wife living her life and she was hacked. The person who stole these photos was the one breaking the law. The people sharing and selling those photos were breaking the law. Save your moral outrage for them and the people requesting to have these photos used to create fake rape videos because she was a rape victim.
Anyone who can read the entire story and walk away indignant more at her for having taken photos that were perfectly legal and a personal choice instead of the people who have violated her are simply violating her again.
Pin You wouldn’t think something like a major natural disaster, which is covered all over the media for weeks, and something that lurks in secrecy like child abuse would have much in common, but bear with me. I was recently having a conversation about non-profit fundraising in Louisiana, part of a future, longer, post of it’s…
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I was looking at all the different survivor categories you have listed,and I find that I fit under most if not all.I plan to place a link to you from mine,if that is alright with you,please email,available from profile.Thank you.