Carnival Against Child Abuse

This month was somewhat slow for contributions, I’m sure the holiday had a lot to do with it, keeping everyone busy and away from their blogs. On the other hand, there’s nothing like family time to inspire abuse survivors to write, so I’m looking forward to reading some of the post-holiday thoughts in the next few months. 🙂

I enjoyed hosting this month’s edition. It forced me to make time to read everyone’s submissions and I really enjoyed that tremendously. So, without any further delay:

Survivor Stories and Poetry

Heather presents Personal Legacy of Abuse, about which she added “As part of my own healing… and working through the devastating effects of abuse I decided to create this diagram that make it easy to see the profound effect that abuse has.”

Brian aka hummingbunny presents Poetry Thursday about Little Brian, “a poem about one of my multiples, Little Brian, and is our virtual trip to the museum.”

WW added a timely poetry submission What Am I Thankful For? , and this remark to the group:

To All: I recently deleted my PTSD blog, but a new and better one is on the way. In the meantime, I would like to submit this semi-poetry, which is not about child abuse specifically, for the Carnival Against Child Abuse. I am a survivor. And this Thanksgiving I am focusing on all the good things life has to offer. WW

Also, Lisa added Words.

In the News:

Speaking of Lisa, she also had some strong words about pedophiles in power in a post titled Osama bin Sperm Donor in ’08!

Holly, meanwhile is focusing on a story about how Police share insight on sex crimes and hoping it can help governments find solutions.

Marcella Chester continues a conversation with How Abusers Convince Themselves They Aren’t Doing Anything Wrong posted at abyss2hope: A rape survivor’s zigzag journey into the open.

Advocacy and Awareness:

Faith presents Child Sexual Abuse; Broken Bodies – Broken Dreams

Jeremy delves into politics and religion a bit with Conservative Parents vs. the New World Order

Aftermath:

Annaleigh takes on a topic we’re all familiar with, Staring into the face of my grief, sorrow, guilt, and shame.

Emily added this note “This post talks about how having sexual abuse stamped on my maternity notes effected me. I also talk about my pregnancy and how I worried about having a boy in terms of dealing with his gender and sexuality. Of course, I ended up having a boy and I can report that none of my fears came to fruitition.” along with her submission, 39/40 Pink or blue?

Healing and Therapy:

The most submissions this month came in this area, which shows me that folks are working at healing. That makes me happy to see that.

Manymeez presents INSIDE THE ADULT MIND OF AN ABUSED CHILD: lessons in hope and change that can be learned

Linda Freedman presents About Affection-Long Story-Part Two, adding “The post addresses the consequences in adulthood of having feared authority as a child. This second part of a four part series reveals Therapy Doc’s bias on parenting and handling domestic chaos. Although there’s a place for a Mommy Monster in the home, that place is clearly in the realm of hyperbole, not reality.”

April_optimist had this to say about her entry, Powerful Choices

I wrote this because I was remembering how powerless I felt as a kid and how much I’ve grown and changed over the past few years. And I wanted to write about how as adults we can reclaim the power to be happy, the power to create the lives we want to have.

scarlett_demon shared some thoughs about Consent

Last, but certainly not least, Marj aka Thriver presents From Negative Assumptions to Autonomy and her words about her post are the words I want to leave you all with this month:

Many child abuse survivors, like myself, learn lots of negative assumptions about the world. Here’s a look at turning those negatives into positives. We all deserve to feel better about ourselves!

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    Why I Took Part in the AFSP Virtual Overnight Event

    It was the stories. It was all of those people doing this in memory of someone they lost. Or, like me, in memory of the fact that we are still here instead of leaving others to tell our stories. In our day to day lives, it’s too easy to forget how many people are impacted by suicide each and every year across the country, and the world. The further in time I get away from that time in my own life, the easier it can be to put it behind me and forget about it. But, that is something I never want to do. As painful as it is, I want to remember what it was like to no longer want to be alive. When someone is in that place, I want to be able to say, “I’ve been where you are”, to recall all of the details, and be able to sit and understand. Because that is how we save people. Not by talking in hushed tones about depression, or mental illness, but by sharing the stories of people who survived and healed, and of those we’ve lost.

    Let’s face it, if you spend much time considering those losses, and listening to those stories, it is impossible to walk away without realizing that we have lost a devastating number of people to this disease. Many more than some of the diseases we all gladly talk openly about every day. Yet somehow, maybe because we don’t understand it, or are afraid of it, we keep silent. After all, it might make someone uncomfortable. Even I have, at times, kept the details to myself in fear of making other people uncomfortable, or risk having them worry about me. The more I read and heard these stories though, the more I realized that I needed to share my story, if only so that anyone who reads it would know, and maybe even understand a little bit, what it’s like to be so far down into the darkness of depression, that you don’t want to live any longer. So, with that said, let me share my experience with you, now that it’s been some 25 years, and maybe now people won’t worry so much about me. (Warning, this is about to get dark, and we will talk a bit about suicide, though I will keep those exact details out)

7 Comments

  1. I actually think it’s a fine carnival–good number of posts and lots of variety. I’ve already read some of these courageous blogger posts, but I’ll get around to reading them all soon. Good job, Mike! (and submitting bloggers 😉

  2. Great Carnival, you are helping many, thank you for including the news articled about the police and our two countries. Child exploitation is horrible experience for many.
    Take care
    God Bless Holly Desimone

  3. Mike

    Thanks for hosting the carnival. Your efforts are much appreciated. I look forward to reading everyone’s posts.

  4. I am writing to invite you to submit a post to the 7th Edition of the Carnival Against Child Abuse, hosted by Sadly Normal. Since it is the last one of the year, I would like to make it huge! I have a few different categories, and I have opened up my blog to guest writers for people who dont have a blog.

    The information can be found here: http://sadlynormal.wordpress.com/2006/11/29/7th-edition-of-the-carnival-against-child-abuse/

    Thank you for your consideration!!!

    Be gentle to you.
    Lisa aka Franki
    sadlynormal.org
    Seeking Justice for Adult Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse

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