The one point of the story that really struck me was that, upon his arrival in Israel, no one wanted to hear about his being a survivor. In fact, society really seemed to assume that if you were taken to the camps, you must have done something to deserve that, and if you had survived, you must have done something to cause that too. It struck me because I honestly think this sort of attitude is somewhat present in our own society when it comes to child abuse, and sexual violence.
How many times have you seen someone try to “explain away” someone’s past experiences, making excuses for why we were targeted or playing the old “blame the victim” game? As I consider these people, and the people in Israel who wanted to point to something “bad” about Holocaust survivors and victims, I’m left with one simple explanation for both groups. Simply put, they are scared, and ignorant. Their world-views cannot comprehend the possibility of something like that every happening to them, or in their family, so they concoct excuses about why it couldn’t happen to them.
These are the same people who watch the news and count themselves as smart for living in a nicer neighborhood, not going out at night, only letting their kids go to the “approved” schools and activities, only interacting with the “right” people, only traveling to the best places, and on and on. There’s no room for sympathy for victims, because that would be admitting that maybe, just maybe, they could be a victim too. Obviously, since they’ve done everything right, they cannot be a victim, and you’re victim-hood is a result of your wrong decisions.
Their entire worlds would crumble into nothingness if they had to face the fact that people become victims for no other reason that someone else decided to do something harmful, and evil. There was nothing the victim could have done differently to avoid it, no poor decision that would have caused them to be in harm’s way, no mingling with the wrong crowd, no nothing. They were just living their lives, as anyone else would, and had nothing but the bad luck to targeted by someone wishing to do them harm.
Those who would deny that possibility lack the strength of character to see the world for what it is, and accept that there is always a risk of something bad happening, no matter what precautions you might take. It’s not just that they lack sympathy for victims, they need the constant, false, comforts of their own safety more. If they aren’t somehow better than these victims are, then this could happen to them as well, and they are too weak to accept that as reality.