A Personal Note

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 2 minutes

Today is my 10th wedding anniversary. As many of you know, I’ve been living apart from my wife because of my job, though she will finally be joining me in South Carolina next month! To top it off, my wife is actually even further away than normal, as she is traveling in Greece as part of her job! (The last big commitment she wanted to live up to before leaving.)

If you had asked me 10 years ago how we would be celebrating this anniversary, I don’t think I would have guessed this in a million chances.

This weekend I am also missing my High School’s 25 year reunion. (Yeah, I’m getting old!) If you had asked me then where I would be living, again, I don’t think South Carolina would have even been a consideration. I don’t think I had even heard of Greenville, so I know I couldn’t have guessed that!

My point? Life’s an adventure. You never really know where you’ll end up, and if you’re open to it, life will surprise you. Ten years ago, I was getting married, something I swore I would never do again. Sometimes, you meet someone who you want to break all your rules for, and once you start breaking those rules, the adventure begins. I haven’t regretted any of the adventure, even the challenges of this past year. In fact, all of the challenges along the way in this adventure have only served to make me a better man, and made our relationship stronger than anything I could have imagined on our wedding day.

Then again, it’s fairly obvious that I simple wasn’t thinking big enough back then. I won’t make that mistake again. Now I know that our adventure may take us anywhere, and we’ll get through it, together. And still, 10 years from now, I hope I’m just as amazed by where life has taken us as I am today!

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