Quick Thought Number 7 – Messages About AnxietyPin

Quick Thought Number 7 – Messages About Anxiety

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 1 minute

Society, when talking about teens – “We need to stop keeping score or competing at all, making them do public speaking, etc., because the anxiety is too much. We have an epidemic of anxiety.”

Society TO teens – “If you don’t have your career plan mapped out, your grades in order, aren’t involved in the right activities, don’t end up at an elite school, etc. you’ll end up a failure, maybe even homeless. Also, if you say the wrong thing about the wrong person or group, especially on social media, we will brand you for life and make it impossible for you ever to work anywhere. One mistake will haunt you for your whole life.”

Good luck with that.

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