In a more recent English court case, two adoptive parents from Manchester who allowed the abuse of their daughters by paedophiles in return for money and a car were jailed following their conviction over the summer. The adoptive father also took part in the abuse of one of the girls and so received the longer sentence and life on the Offenders’ Register.
The story is here with the related media crawl at the foot of the page.
– CBG
Sara explains some of the reasons why it’s hard, including how much easier it is to internalize negative feedback than a compliment and the ways in which we deflect them, much as I tried to do. She also has a few thoughts on what we should take into consideration as we try to get better at accepting compliments.
My favorite thing to consider from her list – Do you compliment yourself? Why or why not?
When one teenager reported child sexual abuse by a trusted adult, and the English Crown Prosecution Service (DA) told the offender, Robert Daley, that the case would be dropped, it led to his murder planned by the 15 year old victim and aided by a male friend of the same age after Daley called the…
Since you didn’t, and school isn’t allowed to, teach them someone else will. It might be online or in person, but there is nothing more attractive to real pedophiles than kids who lack the basic skills and open communication with adults to tell on them.
Kids who are aware of their bodies and their place in the world can openly talk about sex with trusted and safe adults, understand what it means to be LGBTQ in some basic fashion and what to do when someone makes them feel threatened, making for poor targets. That’s not grooming; that’s teaching them basic self-defense. That’s teaching them the truth and the basics of reality.
I know a lot of supporters and people in the child abuse community don’t want to hear this, but I will not stand by while we practice things that make children less safe. Lacking knowledge about these topics does that. You’re not protecting them. You’re endangering them.
