Paterno and Abuse in Alaska Commentary
Although this piece was filed at the end of last week, it’s still worth reading for the Facebook comment trail which has developed since publication. You can read this at the Anchorage Press website here.
– CBG
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Sharing – How to Stop Blaming Sexual Harassment Victims
I also want you to remember that, as far as I can tell, this study was done regarding adult women being harassed. Imagine how much the victim-blaming in those cases would impact a sexual abuse victim? As a child, maybe we didn’t have any chance to make an accusation, but as an adult we could, except look at what happens to people who come forward years later? Why would I put myself through that trauma?
And if you’re a male victim of sexual abuse, or even assault as an adult? Yeah, you get the extra burden of proving you didn’t want it too.
This all stems from a complete misunderstanding of trauma, and the dynamics involved in going public with our stories. To too many people in society, if we don’t report it right when it happens, then coming forward later is just proof that it didn’t happen and we have some other motive for making the accusation.
Until that goes away, there will continue to be millions of silent victims, and who knows how many predators not being found out.
Sharing – Almost 20 Percent of Parents Disregard Reality Of Child Sexual Abuse: Study
Parents, if you’ve had a talk about inappropriate touch with your young child, where did you go to learn about how to have that conversation? Were there resources available locally, an internet resource, schools? Or were you truly left on your own? Please share in the comments so that other parents can be educated. I am aware of a couple of places to get information, but as someone who isn’t a parent, I’m more interested in what has helped you actually talk to your kids about inappropriate touch. Please share.
Sharing – Why The Age You Experienced Trauma Matters
When we talk about the effects of child abuse and other childhood traumas that last well into adulthood, this is what we are talking about. The normal development cycle was simply disrupted and we now must play catch-up.
It’s not impossible to learn and develop even as an adult, but first we need to stop blaming ourselves for both the trauma, and the effects of the trauma. We need to be open to learning new tools without judging ourselves for not already knowing how to fix ourselves.
If it were that easy, everyone would do it. Clearly that isn’t happening.
