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Sharing – Man who suffered child sex abuse now helps other survivors speak out
For Jeremy, the abuse stopped, and then he went on with life seemingly without issue. Until later, when there was an issue. We assume that all survivors keep their secrets because they are ashamed, and many of us do. But there are also survivors who don’t “look” like abuse survivors, they go on with a relatively normal and successful life, until one day they don’t. Someone who looks like your abuser, a different overwhelmingly stressful situation, an inadvertent touch, or a smell, can all bring it rushing back into your consciousness.
This is another reason why people don’t tell until much later. They don’t really have a reason to, they seem to be “over it”, but they aren’t always really over it.
This is yet another example of survivors being unique individuals and the fact that how each of us is impacted can be different too. Just because another survivor has a different journey than you, doesn’t mean much in the end.
Link – Growing Up With an Abusive Parent: Borderline Personality Disorder
This is so very true, and such a struggle for those of us who grew up constantly being criticized, belittled, and abused. “In this case, the words that hurt, the words of abuse, are constant reminders of what others thought of us. Absent of any positive reinforcement, these words may have become hardwired within us….
Sharing – The impact of non-recent child sexual abuse on the wider family
As I’ve mentioned before, I didn’t wait until my 40s or 50s to tell someone about my abuse, and my family found out about it in my 20s, primarily due to my roommate having to answer their questions about my mental health breakdown. I didn’t get to choose whether my parents found out, but I’m also thankful that he went ahead and had that difficult conversation with them. I needed them to know what happened so that they could be part of my life while I tried to heal my mental health.
On the other hand, I would be lying if I said everything in the family was great after that. It’s complicated and occasionally messy.
Link – Little things
I’ve said similar things before, but maybe not this well: “Small achievements are still achievements and celebrating them feeds our dreams and goals. It gives us fuel to move further down the road or up the mountain because we take time to look back and we realize how far we have come. We remind ourselves…
Sharing – Are We or Are We Not in a Youth Mental Health Crisis?
Is it a crisis that has teens struggling with mental health more recently, or is it some combination of cultural factors and more willingness to talk about mental health?
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