Sadly, this is true.for all victims, but I feel like it is especially true for male victims of sexual abuse. We’re supposed to tough it out and not show any weakness, especially hockey players of all people! But healing really comes from being able to talk about it, whether that be publicly or privately.
‘You truly think you can take it to your grave:’ player recalls abuse by coach – 680 NEWS
This post isn’t necessarily about abuse survivors, but I think it applies. Healing from abuse is similar, there are good days and then there are not so good days. Both are OK. We bombard ourselves with a litany of questions: Why the heck am I sooo tired? What’s wrong with me? Why does this always…
Look, I get it, you tried something and it helped you, or you’ve seen it help someone else. Clearly, you are excited about the possibility of helping others, but you’re forgetting something. You’re forgetting that the person you are sharing this advice with, isn’t you.
When you come walking into a conversation with friends, or especially into online communities with statements like the ones above, the message you are actually sending is “Gee, fixing this is easy, you’re just doing it wrong”.
Imagine using those actual words towards someone you barely know. You wouldn’t, would you? At least if you’re a decent human being, you wouldn’t. But you are totally willing to take your beliefs, your own experience, and completely railroad another person’s current reality with it, you are doing something awfully similar. In a moment of emotional vulnerability, you have come in, guns blazing, with the suggestion that all of this pain they are in, and all of this struggling they are going through, should have been easy to avoid.
This is, sadly, all too common, the inability to see people online who disagree with us as real, living people. We see it when we bully people we don’t agree with, or we use derogatory terms to describe someone we don’t really know anything about, or when we tell people to harm themselves. Social platforms…
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There is a lot to love about Melissa’s story. Her encouragement to take care of yourself, to recognize when the stress is too much, and when you need to stop. But this is one of the things about her story that frustrates me as an advocate: https://www.winnipegfreepress.com/arts-and-life/life/health/be-good-to-yourself-489996411.html “What this means: if you are an employer,…
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