Link – Stop Telling Me To Forgive My Abuser – Overcoming Sexual Abuse

ByMikeM Reading Time: 1 minute

“Forgiveness is touted as something we do to free ourselves, but how freeing is it to be told you have to do something? How freeing is it to be told to let go of your feelings? I was separated from my feelings long enough while I coped with the experience and effects of my abuse. Accepting my emotions was a sign that I was finally considering and connecting with me.”

Forgiveness is a tricky topic for many survivors. Telling survivors that they “have to” forgive in order to really be healed is not helpful. In fact, I don’t think telling anyone going through the healing process that they have to do anything is necessarily helpful. The only thing I would say someone going through that process has to do, is to keep going through it, whatever their path looks like, because the ending is worth it. How you get there, and in what order you do some things and whether you choose to forgive or not, or even what forgiving means to you, is part of your healing, not mine.

Stop Telling Me To Forgive My Abuser – Overcoming Sexual Abuse

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