“The holidays are hard when you want to celebrate but you feel lost and in that dark place,” Marisa said. “The holidays aren’t for what you’ve lost, they are to celebrate everything that you have. Find the support you need in those you love.”
Holidays are difficult for those of us dealing with an abusive past. Typically we aren’t spending the holiday with the whole family gathered around the Christmas tree as we see on TV or in Norman Rockwell paintings, and that can be jarring. It’s ok to grief for what’s missing at your own holiday, but it’s also important to remember what you do have, and to enjoy that, whatever it is.