“I am more than my grief. I am more than what has happened to me in my life. I am more than my losses. I am more than the pain.”
I’ve said it before as well. You are a Survivor, and More.
though this article is not about child abuse, it is about grief, pain and loss, something that survivors can easily identify with, and sometimes over identify with.
So, when I see a study like this, I don’t feel defeated, I don’t feel like we are all just broken and doomed to poorer outcomes. I see the possibility that there is room to change this current reality, but it’s going to take changing how we deal with childhood adversity and doing it in an open, honest, and immediate way.
High levels of childhood adversity don’t have to be an early death sentence. We can, and should, intervene early in order to prevent many of these outcomes. We just need the determination and will to make it happen.
Do we have that?
As reported over at American Malesurvivor.org, Male Russian survivors of CSA organised a meeting recently. One of the contributors to survivorsresource.com also reported that there is a forum there for anyone to post, which is still in its infancy. However like the UK and Australia-based male self-help websites, being survivor led in Russian/Ukraine/Eastern Europe itself,…
In 2022 we could say the same thing about “sad” but I would argue that we see the same thing even more so with the word “anxious” or “having anxiety”.
Of course, with a war going on in Ukraine, two years’ worth of pandemic, political turmoil, and everything else we see when we tune into whatever news source we follow, almost everyone would consider themselves anxious, so how do we differentiate between being anxious about the state of the world, and the kind of anxiety where we are consistently dealing with panic attacks at the very thought of leaving the house?
We don’t have a different word for that. We only have anxiety, or panic, which again, just seem like normal reactions to what is going on around us.
On top of that, when I try and describe my anxiety to someone, even if I can get them to understand that it’s something more than just watching the news and feeling a bit nervous, I can’t really describe it. I don’t understand it. If I did, I might be able to just fix it and be better, but I don’t.
This is a fascinating look into the workings of the people who investigate child abuse in Australia. There is just so much to take away from this, but I truly loved this quote: “Detective Chief Inspector Yeomans says he wants more people to talk openly about the issue of child sexual abuse, hoping it will…
The truth is we’ve all been living through one of the most uncertain, and terrible, times that many of us have ever experienced, all at the same time. Saying that you’ve been struggling with all of it doesn’t really raise any eyebrows, we all nod in agreement and share our own struggles. The stigma, the isolation, the fear of talking about it, is gone.
But, what happens when it’s no longer a pandemic, and someone is still struggling? Does the stigma come back? Do the “what do you have to be depressed about?” questions start back up, does the fear of not belonging, of not being enough, come back?
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