Link – The Saddest Thing About How Men View Their Own Depression

ByMikeM Reading Time: 1 minute

“Men who are depressed can see themselves as a disappointment and a burden to others.”

This is a problem that we, as a society, need to address. Because we are a society that has determined that men are never a burden to others, and don’t need help.

That is so far from the truth, and it’s killing men who don’t feel like they can get help and still be a “man”. We need to find a way for men to be valued for the work that they do, professionally and personally, because that is an important part of the male psyche, while still allowing for the possibility that men can also need help with depression. Those two things are not incompatible!

The Saddest Thing About How Men View Their Own Depression

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