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Link – I Was Sexually Abused—And All Parents Should Do What Mine Did When I Told Them

Without it, there’s no way to even start the healing process…

What my dad did next is what he should have done. It’s what any parent should do when a child says they’ve been abused. It’s what any church leader should do when someone says they’ve been abused. But terribly, it’s not what many parents and leaders actually do.

 

He believed me.

With that, a family can begin the healing process right then and there, and as difficult as that is, it still so much better than the alternative!

http://foreverymom.com/family-parenting/all-parents-should-do-when-their-child-tells-them-sexually-abused-jonathan-trotter/

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