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Sharing – A Vital Self-Care Strategy Everyone Must Practice

This is an interesting way to consider self-care. Typically we think of things we do alone, taking a break from people, resting, relaxing, etc. as “self-care”. Those things are important, but we also need to feel connected, so this is an important part of self-care as well, staying connected to others. The best way to do that? Simply ask them to help you stay connected.

Yet asking for help is one of the best ways we can care for ourselves. Because the reality is that help is vital to our emotional, mental, physical, and even spiritual well-being.

And it’s a good thing that we need help. It doesn’t make us dependent or needy or clingy. It doesn’t make us any less productive or efficient or sharp or creative. It does not make you weak.

Needing help simply makes us human. It makes us part of a community. And it bolsters our meaningful bonds.

As Margarita goes on to point out, asking for help doesn’t have to be about getting someone to help with work or chores. It can also be just be reaching out to chat, or just be in contact with another human being. I can agree that is an important part of self-care as well, staying connected, reminding ourselves that there are people who matter around us.

 

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/weightless/2019/11/a-vital-self-care-strategy-everyone-must-practice/

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