Shared Links (weekly) Nov. 29, 2020
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Link – The Trauma of Children of Addicts and Alcoholics
Growing up with an addict in the house, whether in ab abusive situation or not, leads to learning a lot of things as a child that are not good for us as adults. Living with an addict (including alcoholics1) can feel like life in a war zone. The addict’s personality changes caused by addiction create…
Sharing – Your discomfort is not our deadline to move on
Do I wish I never had to hear another survivor’s story? Of course, I do. Not because of my discomfort, but because I wish these stories didn’t have to exist. Until there are no more stories, we owe it to survivors not only to hear them, but also to learn from them and take action because of them. Ignoring the truth harms us all and leads to more survivors with stories.Â
Link – This Is What ‘Self-Care’ REALLY Means, Because It’s Not All Salt Baths And Chocolate Cake
I love this, and so much more from this article: True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to not build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from. Self care is just that, taking care of yourself. That’s not something that you somehow hope to find some…
Sharing – The Loneliness Epidemic
It requires so much more effort to even have basic interactions anymore. We’ve spent decades designing society this way. It’s not just a personal failing; it’s the entire system. Changing the system can’t be done by one person. But Mandy has some small steps we can take, and if enough people start taking them, maybe we can make some progress and shift the design toward something less lonely.Â
Sharing – Not Just Social Isolation: Loneliness Comes in Many Forms
It is true that there are people with plenty of social skills and social contacts who are still lonely. As a survivor, I recognize this in things like the small number of people we can talk to comfortably about our abuse, our healing, etc. At various times in my life, I’ve had a lot of friends and was very social. I was still lonely. Because no one saw all of me. No one sat with me in my pain. I kept it hidden from everyone. That’s lonely.Â
Link – First responders can be haunted by close encounters with suffering and death
And it’s things like this that keep people from getting help when they need it. “Jeff Dill, a former firefighter and the founder of the Firefighter Behavioral Health Alliance, said he saw a half dozen cases across the country last year where firefighters were fired after they were diagnosed with PTSD.” Is it any wonder…
