Sharing – How to Stop Blaming Sexual Harassment Victims

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I also want you to remember that, as far as I can tell, this study was done regarding adult women being harassed. Imagine how much the victim-blaming in those cases would impact a sexual abuse victim? As a child, maybe we didn’t have any chance to make an accusation, but as an adult we could, except look at what happens to people who come forward years later? Why would I put myself through that trauma?

And if you’re a male victim of sexual abuse, or even assault as an adult? Yeah, you get the extra burden of proving you didn’t want it too.

This all stems from a complete misunderstanding of trauma, and the dynamics involved in going public with our stories. To too many people in society, if we don’t report it right when it happens, then coming forward later is just proof that it didn’t happen and we have some other motive for making the accusation.

Until that goes away, there will continue to be millions of silent victims, and who knows how many predators not being found out.

Sharing – Child sex abuse survivors are five times more likely to be the victims of sexual assault later in life

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The results of this study were pretty bleak, but they’re also complicated. “Unfortunately, though, child sexual abuse survivors were much more likely than those in the control group to be re-victimised in what are considered medium and high harm personal … Continued

Links I’m Sharing (weekly)

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Therapy in Color links Black Americans with therapists of color

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Sharing – Pandemic Leaves Some Struggling with Survivor Guilt at Work

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Yet, despite all the things I don’t have to deal with, I’m freaking exhausted. I’m constantly overwhelmed with trying to find ways I can help all of the people I know who are dealing with all of these things directly, and frustrated that I can’t really help in most cases.

And, let’s face it, the world is a mess right now. There is so much uncertainty about everything. Even if, like me, you’ve been lucky enough to continue working, and stay healthy, there’s no guarantee that won’t change tomorrow, or that someone close to you won’t get sick, or lose their job. In the midst of all that uncertainty, I think it;s OK to admit that I am both grateful for what I have and where I am, but still not OK.

I don’t think anyone right now, can be faulted for not being OK, so I also don’t think any of us should feel guilty about it either.

Raise your hand if you’re also dealing, but not really OK?

Sharing – The Psycho-Physiology of Relationships: What You Don’t Know

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This is a powerful statement.

“Relationships are at the root of mental health in every way.”

For abuse survivors, we know this, even if we don’t always think about it. It’s the damage from abuse at the hands of another person that has such a huge impact on our mental health. It’s the reason when we talk about it occurring at the hands of a family member of loved one that other people struggle to believe us. That the relationship would be the source of abuse is unthinkable to people with good relationships.

But, we can also turn that statement on it’s head as well. It’s relationships that can undo that mental health damage that was done by abuse too.

Links I’m Sharing (weekly) – July 12, 2020

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